A novel idea that is upending the world of parenting—where changing diapers is as normal as cuddles—is asking newborns’ consent before changing their diapers. This idea has generated debate and interest in equal measure, leaving many people in shock.
Now introduce yourself to Deanne Carson, a self-described expert on sexuality education. She makes the audacious assertion that parents ought to start a permission conversation with their children as soon as they are born. Carson makes the unusual claim that even young children can gain from a consent-based culture.
Carson gave a noteworthy appearance on ABC when she discussed the importance of introducing this idea to young children. She stresses the need of nonverbal clues, including making eye contact, to communicate the idea that a child’s opinions count. Although it is true that infants cannot answer vocally, Carson contends that a respectful bond between parent and child can be established by a moment of anticipation and nonverbal communication.
A “sexuality expert” advises parents to get their baby’s permission before changing their diapers.
Indeed, in all honesty. iR6wUfP87i – a picture on Twitter
— May 10, 2018, Sunrise (@sunriseon7)
But there are detractors, just like with every contentious proposal. Many people on the internet doubt if it is realistic to ask a newborn who is incapable of understanding what is happening for consent. Some even make jokes about how ridiculous it is to expect a newborn to respond verbally.
John Rosemond, a different parenting guru, enters the fray and challenges the seemingly harmless practice of giving youngsters high fives during this argument. Such actions, in Rosemond’s opinion, undercut parental authority and respect and pave the way for a future dearth of discipline.
What occurs if the infant says no? Proceed anyhow? Whoa, that’s the true issue now.
— May 10, 2018, Glenda (@TweetsbyGlenda)
It seems like she has never changed a child while wrestling them, or even worse, she simply put hers in a filthy diaper until it was ready to give permission. OMFG.
— May 11, 2018, Michael Lyten (@lytening67)
(@feather1952) -@feather1952@aus.social 10 May 2018
These conversations highlight the difficulties of childrearing in a society where parenting decisions seem to have consequences. Every action and interaction shapes the parent-child dynamic, from consent in diaper changes to the propriety of high-fives.
What is the conclusion then? Are these discussions necessary to foster respectful relationships, or are we overanalyzing parenting? One thing is certain despite the ongoing discussion: parenthood is anything but easy. It’s an adventure full of obstacles, shocks, and yes, even soiled diapers. One thing, though, remains constant throughout it all: there is always room for growth and understanding.
